Ask yourself if what you’re doing today is getting you close to where you want to be tomorrow. I think anybody in this life today knows that in the end, life is uncertain, and the only way to make it better is by becoming better personally. If you want things to change, you are the one who needs to make it happen. Self-education then becomes the edge for people.
Tony Robbins describes three steps for Personal Breakthrough to create a new future and achieve your dreams:1) Create a strategy- find someone who’s done something and been successful. Pattern that for yourself and make your plan. 2) Change your story- what about my story is stopping me? 3) Change your state of mind: mental and emotional. Change your physical body; the way you move, the way you breathe.
Life is happening to us, not for us. The most powerful state of mind is gratitude. You can’t be angry and grateful at the same time. You can’t be fearful and grateful at the same time. Visualize the positive for what you want and what you want to achieve.
Living is all about giving. If you’re focused on yourself, you’re always going to have fear about something. But if you’re focused on serving, then thoughts, ideas, insights come to you: how to take care of yourself, your family, helping others. I’ve always hated to see people suffer, thus the reason for my calling to the nursing profession.
When I read Deepak Chopra’s book the Seven Laws of Spiritual Success, I learned that conscious change is brought about by two qualities: attention and intention. Attention energizes and is in the present. Intention transforms and is for the future. Desire alone is weak. Intention is the real power behind desire.
I was stuck in a state of listlessness and despondency. I knew I was unhappy, and had reached a point of desperation. They say that the way to garner courage to make real changes in a person’s life arrives through either inspiration or desperation. I was desperate. Until I came face to face with what was making me unhappy, did I finally garner the courage to pursue whatever changes I needed to make, damn the outcomes. I knew I was on my way to healing once I identified goals for the future that would turn my life around.
I’m as driven today as I was when I was in high school as a teenager. What was the lesson I saw for me; first as a child growing up in an alcoholic home, then in a teenage marriage? My goal was to discover who I was and what I needed to do to reconnect to my passions. I found the answers to achieve certainty in my life. Themes that helped me cope and rise above parental alcoholism included: change, forgiveness, empowerment, limitations, and the power and meaning of dreams. A mantra of important words I internalized: “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. Whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right.”
My intention for writing my life story was not so much to cause people to know things in their heads, but to affect their hearts. One of the most direct ways into the human heart is a story. I believe the heart is where the most potential for change lies and it’s through our stories that touch our heart and makes us human.
My purpose for writing my life story, Supreme Sacrifice, was also to help others. My story’s message is to offer people freedom from their past. My hope was that somewhere in those pages I wrote would cause a tiny explosion in my readers’ hearts to rally their personal courage and achieve the things they hunger for to change in their lives. I believe the light that sparks passion in Supreme Sacrifice is reinforcing to readers the courage they always possessed like the lion in the Wizard of Oz.
It’s been said that “real courage is the space when ordinary becomes extraordinary; it exists when any person faces fears and insecurities and chooses to act anyway.” The Cowardly Lion is afraid for his life and literally shaking in his fur, but he goes on. He goes on when there is little hope of success. It is this going forth against all odds that is the heart of courage.
Having the courage to change your life may surely be as challenging as what the Cowardly Lion faced. Gently push the boundaries of your bravery out. Sometimes it just takes incremental advancement, but that too is wonderful—no need to shake the earth overnight, but think big, not small and BE BOLD, so that what you’re doing today is getting you close to where you always wanted to be.